I love learning about this topic. I remember in my prep for marriage class
last semester we also spent two days discussing this. There are so many great
talks and information from general authorites. I love this quote by Elder James
E. Faust. “The Lord values his daughters just as much as he does his sons. In
marriage, neither is superior; each has a different primary and divine
responsibility”. I love how he says that men and women are equal and how he says
that we both have different and divine responsiblities. Our gender has always
existed. We do not really understand the differences that we both have, but they
were divinely appointed to us. Women are the nurturers. Men the providers. For
as long as I can remember I have been taught the importance of becoming a
mother. It is my divine responsiblity. Today in the world these roles and
responbilities can get so intertwined and confused. I am not saying it is a bad
thing if the mom goes to work, but I know that if she can stay home with the
kids she should stay home with the kids. I am engaged and my fiance grew up in a
completely different family then I did. I had a stay at home mom and my dad went
to work everyday to provide for my family. Both of his parents worked full time
jobs are were rarely home. He had a nanny. I have always been taught the
importance of the mom being in the home and so this was a bit of a shock to me.
It was a little awkward at first because he expected me to do just what his
mother did and I have always planned on doing what my mother did. I think that
if his mother was in the home more while growing up, he would not have gone
through some of the stuff he did. I am not saying that moms that go to work are
destroying their kids in anyway. I just believe that we should do that we need
to do in order to help our families out as best we can. Yes, I do believe that
men and women are different for a reason and because of that reason men and
women become complementary to one another.
This is one of my favorite stories about this topic:
A man came home from work and found his
three children outside, still in their pajamas playing in the mud, with empty
food boxes and wrappers strewn all around the front yard. The door of his
wife’s car was open, as was the front door to the house and there was no sign
of the dog. Proceeding into the entry, he found an even bigger
mess. A lamp had been knocked over, and the throw rug was wadded against one
wall. In the front room the TV was loudly blaring a cartoon channel, and the
family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. In the kitchen,
dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge
door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under
the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door. He quickly
headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for
his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had
happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the
bathroom door. As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more
toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste
had been smeared over the mirror and walls. As he rushed to the bedroom, he
found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel. She
looked up at him, smiled, and asked how his day went. He looked at her
bewildered and asked, “What happened here today?” She again smiled and
answered, “You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what
in the world I do all day?” “Yes” was his incredulous reply. She answered,
“Well, today I didn’t do it."
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